From the Desk of the VP of the Cooperman Center
Aliyah Longhurst, LMFT, BCBA

1. Keep a Little Routine Close

Kids feel safe when they know what to expect—and honestly, so do we. Protecting a few simple routines (like bedtime or a calm morning moment) can help everyone feel more settled during the holiday rush.

2. Lower the Bar (Seriously!)

You don’t need to do all the crafts, all the outings, or all the perfect-picture moments. Choose the traditions that bring genuine joy, and let the rest gently fall away. Your presence matters more than perfection.

3. Make Space to Slow Down

A few pockets of quiet—ten minutes with a cup of tea, a snuggle on the couch, a short walk—can reset your whole day. Rest is not selfish; it’s necessary.

4. Keep Calm-Down Tools Handy

Deep breaths, sensory breaks, cozy corners, soft music… simple tools can make a big difference. When kids see you calming yourself, they learn how to do it too. Everyone benefits.

5. Prepare for the Wiggly Parts

Transitions and new environments can be tough. Talking through the plan of what will happen ahead of time helps kids to feel more confident—and reduces stress for you, too.

6. You Can Say “No” (And It’s Okay!)

Your family’s well-being comes first. It’s completely okay to skip events, set boundaries, or choose a slower pace. Protecting your peace protects your children’s peace, too.

7.  Take Care of Your Heart

You deserve the same care you give your family. Drink water, rest when you can, and check in with your own feelings. You’re doing an incredible job—even on the days that feel messy.

Most of all, remember: Holiday magic isn’t made from doing everything perfectly. It’s made from warmth, connection, and the little moments of love your kids will remember forever.